Do you still receive hand written birthday cards in the actual mail? It is becoming a rare occurrence in our house. Last month I celebrated a birthday and received a perfectly written card from the one friend who I have retained from secondary school. My friend was also a very tolerant bridesmaid at our wedding many moons ago. The card, sent all the way from Canada even tied in with our wedding theme. In case you are curious, daisies where the theme of the day in 2000!
This little ray of postal, cardboard sunshine got me thinking about my adult friendships. I have never really been the type of person to be surrounded by a whole gang of close girlfriends who regularly meet up for rowdy gatherings and weekends away. It can take me quite a while to strike up close friendships and as life rolls on and schedules and responsibilities increase it takes more effort and energy to maintain close friendships.
I have a handful of female friends who I can rely on. Some I message several times a week just to say hello. Some I contact every few months just to say hello. Some I meet regularly for a quick coffee. One I speak to or see almost every week. My sister in law is also one of my closest friends but we rarely chat because life takes over and we both understand that.
We had a rare night out at a 30th birthday party last weekend and I spent the night chatting to old and new friends. There were some deep and meaningful conversations about family, children, death and the cycle of life but there was also laughter and celebration. It reminded me how important it is to stay connected with those people that listen, lift our spirits and support us.
Sometimes social media can be blamed for killing real life conversations and friendships but this isn’t always the case. A long time but completely random Instagram friend recently contacted my husband as he was going to be in our area and wanted to meet us in real life. This ultimately led to an afternoon of talking, farm touring and an impromptu shared dinner. This unexpected contact reminded me that reaching out to new people isn’t easy and we don’t always take the time, but it can lead to genuine connections and open up new paths for all of us.
Perhaps with friendships it is definitely a case of quality over quantity.
Do you have a whole gang of close friends or are your friends more scattered?
Do you ever reach out to new people?
Do you need an easy slice to share with new or old friends?
This recipe is adapted from a CWA recipe and I used chopped dates and flaked almonds. I think this would work equally as well with a variety of different dried fruit and nuts. Using soft brown sugar gives this slice a dense, caramel finish.
Happy Sunday, friends x
- 110 g butter softened to room temperature
- 110 g soft brown sugar
- 1 egg
- 1 tsp vanilla extract
- 1 cup chopped dried fruit such as dates
- 1/2 cup chopped nuts such as almonds
- 150 g self raising flour sifted
Preheat the oven to 180°C. Line a slice/brownie tin with baking paper.
In a large bowl cream the butter and sugar until smooth and fluffy. Beat in the egg and vanilla. Add all other ingredients and mix well. Scrape mixture into the prepared tin and bake for 20-30 minutes until golden brown.
Allow to cool in the tin for 10-15 minutes. Remove slice from the tin and allow to cool completely on a wire rack. Cut into squares when cool.